Do you have adult children?
How about regrets about the way you brought them up?
Do you fear your days of influencing them are over?
Well take heart…
Things may not be as they seem.
In a recent article, Andrew Sandlin mentions what he calls Christian philosopher Eugen Rosenstock-Huessy’s most incisive observation:
“We should not calculate a man’s lifetime from his own birth to his own death but from his own fifties to his son’s fifties. In short, I will not know if I have been a successful man—much less a father—until my sons have lived through their fifties. Once can assess my life’s and my parental work not when my sons are young, but only when they have had time to develop the implications of my own life when I myself lived during my fifties, not during my twenties, when the implications of my own thinking were immature.”
This is encouraging… especially if you’ve assumed your time to impact your children for good ended the day they moved out of the house…
Because it means the opportunities for you to influence them are not over.
Your children are making important decisions about their own lives as they observe you now.
So live in light of the wisdom you’ve acquired – and are acquiring every day.
Your adult children need you to do so.
In fact, your days of greatest influence on them may still lie ahead.